26 February 2017

Don't forget about your friends with kids

A topic that isn't spoken about much when you become a parent is loosing friends. Something that quite frankly took me by surprise and most other parents I can imagine. When your pregnant your around so much love and friends are over the moon for you but after the initial first meet of your precious new born, you never see them again? Some friends don't even meet your baby and others your lucky if it's once in a blue moon. It's real and it happens to most parents I've spoken to. It really really took me by surprise. That sudden feeling of time. What do you have time for? What do you want to make time for? 

When you become a mum or dad your whole world of course changes like everyone says, it absolutely does. Your still the same person to a degree, kind of. You want to feel like yourself, surround yourself by friends and enjoy each other's company. When you suddenly can't go out anymore or just nip for dinner, that window of opportunity kind of goes. 

For most you really rely on getting a text 'hey, how's you and the baby?'. The four walls of your home can become lonely when your in every day and up all night. You'll soon get a real sense of who's stepping up and who wants to be apart of your baby's life. You of course, understand more than anyone that your friends or people you used to see have busy life's. They absolutely do. They work hard, maintain a social life, see their family, keep healthy and general day to day things. Just like you. Just you have a little person to care for and love on top of it. 

When you have a baby you step into a different world that you once were oblivious to. Which is fair enough because your not in it? The main difference is that realisation of what life really is about. The reason I say that is because I have it growing up right in front of my eyes. That as a parent is something we want to share. We want to share our life with our family and friends, why wouldn't we? 

If old friends drift from your life after having a baby, it's normal and happens to most of us. If they want to be apart of your world again then that's lovely. It's a heavy feeling and certainly a new one to get used to. 

If you have a friend (mum or dad) who's got a baby/kids and your unsure how to go about it. They honestly will be thankful for a message. A chat whenever your free. Ask them to go a walk or go for a coffee. A catch up with or without small person(probably with as they are stuck to us). Don't just stick to seeing them on big occasions, take 30 mins out your month to do something together. If you haven't heard from them there's a good chance they are changing nappies, trying to keep on top of things, trying to at least get a shower or functioning on 3 hours sleep which means normal life can be forgotten about.  Remember they are still there even though they have a child and still would love to see you

Can any mummies and daddies relate at all? 
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