26 February 2017

Don't forget about your friends with kids

A topic that isn't spoken about much when you become a parent is loosing friends. Something that quite frankly took me by surprise and most other parents I can imagine. When your pregnant your around so much love and friends are over the moon for you but after the initial first meet of your precious new born, you never see them again? Some friends don't even meet your baby and others your lucky if it's once in a blue moon. It's real and it happens to most parents I've spoken to. It really really took me by surprise. That sudden feeling of time. What do you have time for? What do you want to make time for? 

When you become a mum or dad your whole world of course changes like everyone says, it absolutely does. Your still the same person to a degree, kind of. You want to feel like yourself, surround yourself by friends and enjoy each other's company. When you suddenly can't go out anymore or just nip for dinner, that window of opportunity kind of goes. 

For most you really rely on getting a text 'hey, how's you and the baby?'. The four walls of your home can become lonely when your in every day and up all night. You'll soon get a real sense of who's stepping up and who wants to be apart of your baby's life. You of course, understand more than anyone that your friends or people you used to see have busy life's. They absolutely do. They work hard, maintain a social life, see their family, keep healthy and general day to day things. Just like you. Just you have a little person to care for and love on top of it. 

When you have a baby you step into a different world that you once were oblivious to. Which is fair enough because your not in it? The main difference is that realisation of what life really is about. The reason I say that is because I have it growing up right in front of my eyes. That as a parent is something we want to share. We want to share our life with our family and friends, why wouldn't we? 

If old friends drift from your life after having a baby, it's normal and happens to most of us. If they want to be apart of your world again then that's lovely. It's a heavy feeling and certainly a new one to get used to. 

If you have a friend (mum or dad) who's got a baby/kids and your unsure how to go about it. They honestly will be thankful for a message. A chat whenever your free. Ask them to go a walk or go for a coffee. A catch up with or without small person(probably with as they are stuck to us). Don't just stick to seeing them on big occasions, take 30 mins out your month to do something together. If you haven't heard from them there's a good chance they are changing nappies, trying to keep on top of things, trying to at least get a shower or functioning on 3 hours sleep which means normal life can be forgotten about.  Remember they are still there even though they have a child and still would love to see you

Can any mummies and daddies relate at all? 

10 February 2017

Baby led weaning

I started our weaning journey at the recommend age of 6 months. Oliver was ready and sitting up unassisted. I done a lot of research and read up on all the choking/gagging information. I felt baby led weaning was right for us and I couldn't wait to see him eating. 

For us it was a slow start and that is completely normal. Out of all the things that can make you feel nervous as a new mother I honestly felt quite at ease introducing food. My view was to put down a few things and see how he got on. His main source of nutrition is milk so any food before the age of 1 is just for fun. That really stuck with me and put me at ease. Realistically they don't eat a lot for a good few months which is fine. I wanted him to have the choice on how much he ate and start making some tiny little decisions like sweet potato or green beans first. Hard life.

I love letting him explore with textures and all different shapes of food. He's totally in control of how much he plays with and how much he tries, which is really nice to watch. We try to be as relaxed as possible and always have a variety of things to offer him. When we first started there was a lot of gagging but we just let him get on with it and he eventually figured it out. I stuck with specific foods that I knew he could manage and build his confidence on. Once he got the hang of a couple different things, we would introduce more. 

The downside LOL-  OK I mean I really couldn't be happier we chose this method of weaning but - it will literally kill your soul how much food you need to clean up. I personally don't care about the wastage it's just the actual cleaning part. EVERYWHERE. I clean the floor, his mat, the carpets, his tray, the table and him at least 3 times a day at meal times. Every day. EVERYDAY. It's soul destroying you will hate it and wish you adopted a dog after you gave birth. When they get a bit older and stronger they will throw that black bean stir fry you made as far as they physically can. Just last week I found some crusty noodles in one of my fluffy throws.
I know this isn't for everyone and spoon feeding fits in better with other people's lifestyles which is cool. Starting the weaning process can be incredibly stressful for a lot of parents and that's normal too. We have a million different things going on and we are always so tough on ourselves so it's hard to know what we feel is best. For my little family this has fitted in perfect and we are really lucky Oliver is quite happy to eat most things or play with most things. 

If all else fails then hopefully they will figure out how to eat by the age of 10 and not throw meatballs at our faces.

How did you find the weaning process? I was thinking about writing my baby led weaning essentials as there's quite a few! Let me know if you would like me to post something.